My Take on The Pill

It appears to me that when it comes to sex, women and men are concerned about different things. Women want to feel loved, cared for, and respected. Men want to feel pleasure, feel desire and excitement. Both men and women can have sex with people they don't really care for - but in terms of relationships, I think men and women definitely want different things - the difficult task is to find a middle in which to agree upon.

When it comes to safe sex, women are usually taking the responsibility and I am beginning to question if that is really fair. Men feel safer when their partners provide the condoms or are on birth control. Most women I know are on the Pill, which is incentive to have unprotected sex with their partners. I went to a physician once and she says to me, "You can say that you are monogomous, but how certain are you that your partner is practicing monogamy? And how ceratin are you that their previous partners have been monogomous?" And those words..."how certain" just kind of stuck in my mind and continues to stay on my mind. Of course, when you are in a relationship, there has to be a certain amount of trust - but the only thing you can really do is trust what your partner is saying and do your best to protect yourself.

Having the rights to take contraceptives has its benefits and its disadvantages. Women can take control of their bodies and prevent themselves from getting pregnant...however, if they do get pregnant, can the blame then, in turn, be put against them? If a woman forgets to take her pill, can her partner then say "I can't take those pills for you - you forgot and now we're going to have a baby." How can she argue that? I think that is the major downside of the contraceptive pill...having the woman take most, if not all, of the responsibility when a man and woman have sex.

I believe that we live in a time now where there are all sorts of precautions that we can take. A lot of women fought hard to give us these rights to birth-control pills...so there isn't really an excuse for getting pregnant - there are no "mistakes," really...If you're going to have sex, you need to realize that is a risk in itself. That's why...when you do choose to have sex with your partner, make sure you talk about it...it is important to know who you are sleeping with...you want someone who will BE THERE FOR YOU if something unplanned should happen - not someone who is not man enough to take responsibility.

That's just my take on it...